Last month I got an e-mail from an old friend and co-worker whom I was very close to and consider him like the little brother I never had. When he was still single he had a falling out with his parents and came to live at my house for a while. That is how close I was to him.
Like most people I have a special e-mail account that I only give out to very close friends and family members. He knows this and even knowing this he forwarded my e-mail to a mutual acquaintance without my authorization or knowledge.
I got an e-mail from this person today and it really upset me. I decided a long time ago that I did not want to continue my friendship with this individual and I told that to my friend in more than one occasion. Why would he disregard my wishes?
Is it common practice to forward e-mails I consider private to your friends? I feel like my privacy was breached and that he violated our long time friendship by doing so.
This is not the first time this happens, he did it to me five or six years ago as well. He thinks the rift between this person and I is petty and wants us to be friends again…that is not going to happen. When I choose to end a friendship or relationship, it is forever. There is no going back. I can be cordial to that individual but that is as far as it will go. If I came to that decision I did not do so lightly, there is obviously a very good reason for me to have severed such ties.
What gives people the right to intrude in my personal life and tell me who I should reconcile with or not? At the very least I think he should of asked me if he could forward my e-mail knowing as he does how I feel about this person. Am I wrong?
I totally agree with you and that friend who chose not to abide with your feeling's would find them self no longer a friend of mine...just saying.
ReplyDeleteYou're so right JB.
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Time for a new close friend list, less one. It sounds like he needs to be on the same list as the one whom he forwarded your mail. That always bothers me, when anyone forwards an e-mail without editing out all the other e-mail addresses. Remember to edit before you push SEND on all forwarded mail.
ReplyDeleteI never forward e-mails but if I did I certainly would edit out e-mail addresses. That is very good advice Lou.
DeleteThankfully, G-mail is free and you can send certain e-mail addresses right into the spam filter (or former friend filter if you prefer)!
ReplyDeleteThat was an A-holish move and you are not making too much of it.
Former friend filter, I like that :)
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IMHO,time to just delete him from your email account and mark as spam any further emails from him. He isn't trustworthy.
ReplyDeleteMost email programs will, once they learn, delete those you have marked as spam , and stop them from your in box.
I may just have to do that Ben. This is the second time he does that to me and I certainly am not going to give him a third chance.
DeleteIf civilization does collapse we will have to shoot people like that. Can't follow the rules you don't get to be on the team. sorry for your email trouble MsB
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If civilization does collapse we will have to shoot people like that. Can't follow the rules you don't get to be on the team. sorry for your email trouble MsB
ReplyDeletethe rat
Well I would not go as far as shoot them Mr. Rat maybe just send them to my Spam folder :)
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